Wednesday, May 27, 2020

Quick Decisions

I can't remember much of last week before Tuesday. On Tuesday the airlines cancelled our flights to the USA and by the Wednesday we had them rebooked for Sunday night. The house buzzed with summer preparations, finishing kindergarten, packing, moving Sam and Celeste into our house and general chaos.  The mostly empty flights were a breeze, everyone stretched out and slept a good portion of the long flight.

Now that we're here, Mary and Abe will continue to attend classes in the evenings and late nights until school is officially out on June 5th. We are in a quasi-quarantine situation- avoiding people but able to go outside and play or exercise. It feels so good to be outside! After almost 3 months of staying home and sometimes exercising solo we are all enjoying the mountain. I love walking with Dan and the children. I also love that the children are so tired when they go to bed- bonus, I only need to wait a few minutes for them to be asleep. 

We have a small renovation project in process at the cabin. The decks have been rotting away and I hope the new pavers are in soon. Demolition doesn't take very long. Tearing out the old decks took less than a day, and now its taking days of hard labor to level and grade, pour new footings, lay new ground cover and pavers. There's a bit of an analogy here. 

Funny things overheard:

Maeser, "I don't have any more long sleeve pants."

Moses stargazing at 3am, "The moon stays in Singapore. It doesn't come to our cabin."

And this conversation was on my birthday.
On that morning Moses and Ransom played (illegally) at Julie's. They hadn't seen each other in two months during social distancing and circuit breaker. Julie filmed Ransom as Moses walked up to the door and they were both ecstatic.
"You're back! Did you have fun at Ransom's house?"
"Yes! His familwy learned him stuff."
"Oh, really? What did he learn."
Moses, "Legos... How to pway nice. Can I go back?"

His famiwy learned him stuff. What? I love this! What have I learned from my family in during this period of time? Is my growth as obvious as Ransom's, I doubt it, but I hope it's there nonetheless. What an opportunity this is.

We've settled into our cabin and put things in their places. After not being here for two years, it seems like home and yet seems like a lot of things are misplaced- obviously because we rented it out to strangers. Most of the time, changes are insignificant, but I did notice that guests had carved initials into trees. That made me a little sad. Overall, we have loved loved being here and can't wait to see family.





Monday, May 18, 2020

MAY-be

Spencer and Caitlin welcomed a new baby into their home this week. Caitlin and Brooklyn are oding very well. Seeing tiny babies reminds me that my tinies aren't so small anymore.

All 5 of them are in the pool, Moses is such a good swimmer and DIVER! When did I hit the sweet spot of not worrying about my children in the pool! If that isn't an indication of growing out of the baby phase, I don't know what is.

We are experiencing social distancing at it's finest:
  • Our kitchen is a food science lab. All kinds of recipes and new versions of food. LC and KETO are popular. Dallin's additions are delicious. I think he has yet to fail one of his experiments. He put bran muffin batter in the waffle maker yesterday. Who knew "bran muffins as waffles" should have been discovered decades ago.
  • Swimming every afternoon. We are one of the few that get sun and exercise all in one wet packaged deal.
  • We hit school hard every morning and aim to finish by lunchtime. Abe and Mary usually finish by 2 and 3 respectively. (3 weeks left OR 13 days OR 2 weekends... take your pick.)
  • As I write, our flights have been cancelled for UT... working on contingency plans.
COVID-19 reading:
Dan- War and Peace, Our Oriental Origins and Age of Napoleon
Amy- The Power of Stillness, Influence
Mary- Harry Potter (Audible Version, she's wears head phones whenever she isn't in class. To deter the additional social distancing, we require her to be folding laundry or washing dishes when listening.)
Abe- The Great Brain Series
Maeser- Wings of Fire, Skinny Bones
Scout- Elephant and Piggie
Moses- Animal Encyclopedia


LC Base Waffle made into an MLT (Mutton, Lettuce and Tomato)

What circuit breaker looks like.








Selfies by Scout

Monday, May 11, 2020

May 11, 2020

This week's updates:
The power of bribery. Momo is earning Orbies (water beads) whenever he successfully uses the bathroom. 

"Mom, I'm done. Mooooomm!"
"Hey, Bud."
"Mom, I went invisible pooh. Can I have Orbies?"
"You can have invisible Orbies."

*I imagine I'm funny, but gets Dan credit for the comeback.

Graduated from KETO to a full blown sourdough bakery. Having a sourdough starter means a lot of baking and a lot of eating. We've tried sourdough waffles, biscuits, cobbler, pancakes, liege waffles and bread. Next batch, pizza.

19 more days of school!
OR 3 weekends until school's out!

Lots of chess games with cousins and grandpa in Utah/Switzerland. We're on a losing streak. 

Le Pétit Chef (Dallin) has introduced homemade ricotta and hand turned pasta to our table. I'm so thankful he has impeccable taste and has invested a lot of time and resources into his culinary art.

Scout to Moses when fighting over a toy, "Moses, you have to say purple unicorn!" As if he knew all the obscure rules of the game.





Tuesday, May 5, 2020

Highlights

Dan and I finished our KETO fast on Thursday. Dan, Dallin and I all got food poisoning on Friday.

"My tomingo is outside!" Ok, I'll get it... after giving up my search. I returned empty handed. "That's ok, I'll go get it." Returns with Scout's Pink Flamingo.

Sunday baking- Dan made sourdough bread, Abe and Dan have been working with the starter from Caitlin and Spencer. It's delicious. Sour dough waffles or bread have been on the menu daily. We made homemade cookies and ate them with American Tillimook Ice Cream (This quarantine brings the oddest things to the grocery shelves.) 

It was lovely to see everyone sitting in their living rooms for our Virtual Fast and Testimony Meeting through Zoom. It was also amazing that for the one testimony meeting that we can mute our children they sat very reverently and listened.

Maeser threw up immediately after breaking his fast on Sunday afternoon. Not sure if it was a low blood sugar thing or the fact that he inhaled two chicken enchiladas.

iphone Alarm Schedule Tuesday:
1- 8:00 Scout Zoom
2- 8:00 Abe PE
3- 8:30 Abe Chinese
4- 8:30 Maeser Chinese
5- 9:00 Maeser Zoom
6- 9:30 Abe Zoom
7- 10:30 Scout Chinese
8- 12:30 Scout Breakout
9- No idea, I turned off my phone.

This is an improvement to last week's schedule as I just learned you can label your alarms... prior to this, an alarm would go off and I couldn't remember what it was ringing for! 

Moses is struggling to get to the toilet in time, not sure if its because he's too busy playing or that we tried to teach him to clean himself (he's 4) and he's not a fan. Unfortunately for both of us, I've used bribery, praise, anger and shame to try and help him remember to stop playing and go. When we were playing match-it, he jumped up and ran to the bathroom yelling, "Mom, I have to go to the potty and it's pooh and I want you to wipe me!" A few minutes later while I'm helping him he declared, "I'm proud of me!"

"I need more practice eating ice cream." -Maeser

Mary signed up for her last year of classes in middle school, while Abe signed up for his first year of middle school. Abe, "I'm not interested in any of those electives. Please just sign me up for another language or math."

Spencer passed his board review!

Moses, "Mom, does your 'komputer know everything?" 

Moses walking with hands clasped behind his back, "I washed my hands with soap."
"Great, can I smell them."
"Actually, I forgot soap."











Saturday, April 25, 2020

It's been 45 days since the kids were in school

Another week of distance learning, virtual meetings (middle school parent teacher conference, youth council, church, "coffee" morning with friends, YW/YM and activity days, school) and it's now 6 weeks until we originally planned to fly to Utah for summer break.

I shouldn't complain about home based learning for school, SAS is very supportive and I don't have to go through lessons in Chinese or German... but starting tomorrow, the littlest children will start online integration with their distance learning. Meaning, I will be in class as they are too young to be online solo, I'm effectively repeating Kindergarten and 2nd Grade.

Mary is on her own from 9-3:00, and she's a star! She is staying on track so well. It didn't bother me until last Friday afternoon when she said, "Mom, this is kind of lonely." I just sit in my room all day, I don't like distance learning." Face palm... I need to check on her more regularly.

Also, I briefly mentioned Moses' discretions last week, and I'm sad to say this week's altercations aren't much improved. I feel armed and ready for next week... I've asked Sarah (and an additional 3 friends) what she does for Oscar and I feel empowered. This week I've got timers and buzzers and games and structured "play" time... My phone has three new alarms to remind me to get a visual on the little Titan who is monopolising our schedule.

Saturday morning, Abe and Maeser and I rode bikes for hours. A month ago, Abe left his bike on campus during Spring Break, we never returned to class, he never picked up his bicycle... now Campus is officially closed with metal grates, steel road blocks and security. On Friday morning, as we approached the fortress that campus has become, Abe became increasingly concerned that he wouldn't be returning home with his bike. A valid concern as he had to beg for the security to walk his bike to the front gate. 20 minutes later and his efforts proved fruitful.

So we biked. Maybe illegally, as exercise is supposed to be limited to your immediate neighbourhood, but neither boy complained as we biked for hours up to the Causeway and waterfront.  Moses was also thrilled to walk on Saturday morning. He enthusiastically ran to get his shoes and said, "Mom, you never take me on walks!" True. The boy hasn't left our yard in two weeks... which is a much better situation than friends staying in apartment buildings without yards or being in Manila.

On the record front, Dan set two fitness records this week (bike and run) while I lost my longest streak logging data on Fenton's App. I think I was more disappointed at forgetting to log meals yesterday than Dan was at actually only coming in at his 3rd fastest time for his time trial on the trainer.






While the rest of us swim, Dallin waits patiently for his ear infection to clear up.

Bedtime stories read by Scout, selection limited to stories by Mo Willems.

Two years ago, we began charging the children for tattling. Each, offered intentionally or otherwise, costs 5 push-ups. Scout doens't mind...
"Mom, can I do 5 push-ups before I tell you this?" 

Domesticating Mary. She made this skirt.

And then made dinner from 3 recipes found in a magazine.









Monday, April 20, 2020

Watchmen

When I was young girl, I spent several summers with my dad working on my uncle’s
ranch in Wyoming. My uncle had hundreds of cows, and the cows needed to be fed
twice a day, once in the wee hours of the morning and then again just before supper.

I did small jobs: fetching things, opening and closing gates, feeding the calves, or
milking the single milk cow. When it was time to feed the large herds, I would sit in
the cab of the truck while my uncle attached a large trailer to the back of the truck.
This part of the work always required two men, one to pitch hay off the back while
another drove the truck across the fields.

I’ll never forget the summer when I was 11 years old. After lining up the truck and
trailer, my uncle asked me if I thought I could drive the big truck across the fields so
TWO men could be pitching hay to the cows from the trailer. Oh, I was eager to try! I
didn’t hesitate to jump into the driver’s seat or settle in and it was then that I realized
I was still so small I could not reach the pedals AND see out the front window at the
same time.

Not getting deflated, I wondered how was this going to work? How was I going to be
able to help my dad get the work done? I’d watched him do this hundreds of times, I
was sure that I could do it. As my dad came around to the driver’s side of the truck,
he said he had a solution.

The men needed a driver, I had a foot that could engage the gas pedal and move the
truck across the fields. Because I couldn’t see beyond the steering wheel, the men
on the back of the truck would call out if I was driving in the wrong direction and
needed to turn left or right. I looked across the fields, there was nothing in my way. I
thought this was a fine solution.

Before my dad buckled me in, he reminded me that there were two long irrigation
ditches running the length of the field, I only had to stay between those two ditches
and we wouldn’t be in any danger.

As I began to drive, I was thrilled to think I was being useful. My pride swelled as I
couldn’t wait to tell my sisters that I had learned to “drive” the big truck out on the
ranch. Feeling pretty proud of myself, I was surprised when I heard my dad call from
the back of the truck, “Amy! Turn right!”

I was a little unsure, I had hardly touched the steering wheel and had driven in a
straight line, I was sure that I hadn’t turned and that I was still headed in the right
direction right down the middle of that field.

But I turned, and we continued. After a few more minutes, I heard my dad call out
again, “Amy, turn left. Turn left!” Surprised again, I quickly realigned the wheel and
as far as I could tell looking out the side window, we were running parallel to the
ditch again. And yet, for the next two hours as I drove through the fields we
continued to zig zag back and forth between two parallel ditches while my father
called from the back of the truck whenever I needed a course correction.

I’ve thought a lot about this experience, I want to share 3 lessons that I learned from
that summer.

1- I had no doubt that my father, calling from the back of the truck, wanted me to
succeed. He needed to get the work done, but he also wanted to see me learn,
grow, and take on new responsibilities. The Lord is the same. As D. Todd
Christofferson taught, “God’s ultimate purpose is our progress.” We need to have
faith in the Lord and in His servants.

2- As a child, I didn’t have the good sense to hesitate. I felt only eagerness when
given the opportunity to serve. Alternatively, sometimes we might feel hesitant or
discouraged, thinking we are not able or qualified to do the Lord’s work, but take
courage, “whom the Lord calls, the Lord qualifies!” (emphasis added, quoted from
Thomas S. Monson)

Indeed, the Lord declared, “out of small things proceedeth that which is great…
Behold, the Lord requireth the heart and a willing mind; …” (D&C 64: 33-34)
I learned to be eager and to engage in the work.

3- Take correction and repent quickly.
An irrigation ditch is not easy to see when standing in the field, as a ditch usually lies
beneath ground level. They are best seen from a higher vantage point. As my father
and uncle stood in the back of the truck, they had a view I did not, they knew the
fields well and were aware of potential danger. They constantly called out to me to
turn back to the center of the field.

It is the same with our church leaders. Like my father calling from the back of the
truck, the Lord has provided prophets and apostles who stand as watchmen who are
allowed to see things from a more “heavenly perspective”. We sustain them as
prophets, seers and revelators.

In the Book of Mormon, Ammon taught Limhi: “A seer can know of things which are
past, and also of things which are to come, and by them shall all things be revealed,
or, rather, shall secret things be made manifest, and hidden things shall come to
light, and things which are not known shall be made known by them, and also things
shall be made known by them which otherwise could not be known.” (Mosiah 8:17)
These men of God, can see things we cannot see, “they have a responsibility to look
out and warn us of pitfalls, danger” and even irrigation ditches (so to speak)
“regardless of public opinion or trends in society.” (Ensign 2016)

We would be wise, to heed their counsel, act on their invitations, and repent
quickly when we are called to turn back towards Christ.

When the job was done, I sat there, both in awe and gratitude. I had listened
carefully to the warnings from my dad and had no reason to doubt his intentions. I do
not doubt the instructions I receive from the Lord or His servants either. I know that
they serve us as watchmen, diligently serving because of their love for the Lord.

Christ is our Savior and Redeemer, he reminds us that “whether by mine own voice
or by the voice of my servants, it is the same.” (D&C 1:38) I have a testimony that
President Russel M. Nelson is the Lord’s prophet. His watchful care is already
preparing us to withstand chaos and turmoil. His counsel and invitations, when
heeded, will keep us on the covenant path.

In the name of Jesus Christ, Amen

Not that 'Friday Night Special'.

Some people's journal entries are inspiring and prompt. I aspire to claim at least one of those qualities someday.

I'm making quiche for dinner and feeling so thankful for frozen pie crusts as I had two left in the freezer. (Dinner in half the time.)

I am realising I'm not the All-in-One-Steal-of-a-Deal that I thought I was...

Kicking this circuit breaker off I totally thought I'd kill it (planning routines, setting goals and scheduling workouts...).  Because by Friday nights my kids are not getting anything fabulous from Dr/Coach/Teach/Pastor/Weary Mom.

Anyone else feeling the same vibes?

I'm thankful for friends who normalize the situation. I know I'm not alone in the struggle to keep a peaceful home and loving environment. I really do love having everyone home with no friends and the opportunity to focus on less, and that they have so much time to just BE together. But then, in less than 2 weeks Moses has become my most destructive child ever, and I blame it on distance learning home school. 

Being the only child exempt from iPads, he has entertained himself with scissors, carefully crafting holes in our carpet and adding detail work to anything with upholstery. Dallin has scrubbed the paint off walls trying to remove the marker murals. (So thankful for Dallin.)

Maybe Moses assumes I'll be in need of some retail (or otherwise) therapy when everyone returns to school. :) 

Until then, I've got plenty of scissors, and happy to drop them in the mail for any needy friends. In return, I could use about 20 more rolls of scotch tape for all of Scout's art projects.

Sunday, March 15, 2020

Home Church

Four weeks of home church and I'm converted! Each consecutive week has become more and more relaxing and the children are falling into a routine. Abe and Mary prepare talks each week and share them on Sunday. Its an opportunity they are both excited to see the end of. 

Without visiting members face to face, our attention has been brought closer to home. It's amazing how much time WAS spent ministering to members that lived far away, now we text and WhatsApp or call. School and friends have not been disrupted much, and for the most part sports and after school activities are the same too. Mary's basketball tryouts were cancelled and then rescheduled after the coaches arranged for inter school games against faculty teams. She's both excited and nervous to try out for the team in two weeks.

Highlights from our week:
Saturday night s'mores and street games.
Home church, forts, board games and general social distancing.
Failed glucose monitor testing. I've tried two tests and torn both of them off playing tag with Moses or putting on a backpack. The test is supposed to last two consecutive weeks with the exact same meals at exact same times. (Think Groundhog Day.) Starting again tomorrow. Maybe I need to wrap the monitor with an ace bandage? I wonder how active mom's use the readers without tearing them off so frequently. 
Playdates with Moses, bus rides, trips to the park and the zoo.
Pi Day

I finished reading book that Sarah recommended, Invisible Women, and found time to read my first fiction book in months! (Skyward and Starsight by Brandon Sanderson). Maeser and I did start reading "Where the Red Fern Grows." He really wants a dog.

And my current favorite quote, as I muster up the time to write more: 
Reading maketh a full man; conference a ready man; and writing an exact man..." - Francis Bacon






Sunday, February 16, 2020

An over due update.

Despite having occasional conversations with family, I feel like I haven't kept up to date the last few weeks. Some of the time consuming events have included:
  • Women's Conference Work and then the cancelation of Women's Conference in Taiwan
  • This flu-like virus that is stretching from China with tentacles reaching as far as Bangkok and Doha to interrupt schedules and events, Dan had some training meetings in Korea- cancelled, Bangkok- cancelled, and Oman- also cancelled
  • A forthcoming race for Dan. His training schedule has been undeterred and he leaves on Tuesday for a race in Muscat, hopefully to remain as scheduled next weekend. I am no longer traveling as support crew because the most prudent course of action would be to keep at least one parent in the country at all times with the children.
  • Maeser turning 8 AND having a long awaited birthday party. (If you are unaware of our birthday party policy, they only happen every 4 years.)
  • Maeser getting baptised! Dan baptised him after church last Sunday and Mary and Abe were the witnesses. 
  • Making summer plans, signing up for sports camps, calendaring family reunions, booking flights... the works.
  • Taxes. Nuff said.
  • Hosting YSA FHE nights and new to Singapore friends.
  • Primary meetings and activities.
  • Reading and some research. I know it is a luxury to have time to read, I'm thankful for it. 
    • The Lord's Question
    • Women and the Priesthood
    • Jesus The Christ
    • Invisible Women: Exposing Data Bias in a World Designed for Men (Reading as board for MIMB)
    • The Coddling of the American Mind
    • The Courage to be Disliked
    • Skyward by Brandon Sanderson
    • We Are Still Alive (research with Sage)
    • Second Nephi
Sorry for the lists, I doubt that is why you are reading. I'm just glad I've made it this far in an attempt to record anything this week. I'll end with two (maybe three) thoughts from books I'm reading and a quote from Scout.

From Invisible Women, "... an other example of how much a diversity of experience at the top- matters to everyone." We can't all have the same experiences and expect to get the same results. 

Chapter 5 of Women and the Priesthood: "In The [Church], women are integral to Church leadership and governance. And because of the Church's lay leadership, actively participating members are all enrolled in what is essentially an ongoing leadership training program. A woman serving a a counsellor in a stake Young Women presidency may next be called to teach Sunday school or Primary or to work in the library. One of the reasons Latter-day Saints can mobilise so quickly in times of disaster is that we learn to lead, and we also learn to follow. Over time, we learn how to do whatever the Lord needs us to do." (emphasis added)

"It must be disturbing to see friends replaced with strangers, but all are welcome and all must be cherished." Seemed quite applicable to horizontal interpersonal relationships at the moment. Something I'm focusing on.

And last, in a serious conversation with Scout this week, "I can't be a mom. I don't know how to make breakfast." That just about wraps up my qualifications.