Saturday, April 25, 2020

It's been 45 days since the kids were in school

Another week of distance learning, virtual meetings (middle school parent teacher conference, youth council, church, "coffee" morning with friends, YW/YM and activity days, school) and it's now 6 weeks until we originally planned to fly to Utah for summer break.

I shouldn't complain about home based learning for school, SAS is very supportive and I don't have to go through lessons in Chinese or German... but starting tomorrow, the littlest children will start online integration with their distance learning. Meaning, I will be in class as they are too young to be online solo, I'm effectively repeating Kindergarten and 2nd Grade.

Mary is on her own from 9-3:00, and she's a star! She is staying on track so well. It didn't bother me until last Friday afternoon when she said, "Mom, this is kind of lonely." I just sit in my room all day, I don't like distance learning." Face palm... I need to check on her more regularly.

Also, I briefly mentioned Moses' discretions last week, and I'm sad to say this week's altercations aren't much improved. I feel armed and ready for next week... I've asked Sarah (and an additional 3 friends) what she does for Oscar and I feel empowered. This week I've got timers and buzzers and games and structured "play" time... My phone has three new alarms to remind me to get a visual on the little Titan who is monopolising our schedule.

Saturday morning, Abe and Maeser and I rode bikes for hours. A month ago, Abe left his bike on campus during Spring Break, we never returned to class, he never picked up his bicycle... now Campus is officially closed with metal grates, steel road blocks and security. On Friday morning, as we approached the fortress that campus has become, Abe became increasingly concerned that he wouldn't be returning home with his bike. A valid concern as he had to beg for the security to walk his bike to the front gate. 20 minutes later and his efforts proved fruitful.

So we biked. Maybe illegally, as exercise is supposed to be limited to your immediate neighbourhood, but neither boy complained as we biked for hours up to the Causeway and waterfront.  Moses was also thrilled to walk on Saturday morning. He enthusiastically ran to get his shoes and said, "Mom, you never take me on walks!" True. The boy hasn't left our yard in two weeks... which is a much better situation than friends staying in apartment buildings without yards or being in Manila.

On the record front, Dan set two fitness records this week (bike and run) while I lost my longest streak logging data on Fenton's App. I think I was more disappointed at forgetting to log meals yesterday than Dan was at actually only coming in at his 3rd fastest time for his time trial on the trainer.






While the rest of us swim, Dallin waits patiently for his ear infection to clear up.

Bedtime stories read by Scout, selection limited to stories by Mo Willems.

Two years ago, we began charging the children for tattling. Each, offered intentionally or otherwise, costs 5 push-ups. Scout doens't mind...
"Mom, can I do 5 push-ups before I tell you this?" 

Domesticating Mary. She made this skirt.

And then made dinner from 3 recipes found in a magazine.









Monday, April 20, 2020

Watchmen

When I was young girl, I spent several summers with my dad working on my uncle’s
ranch in Wyoming. My uncle had hundreds of cows, and the cows needed to be fed
twice a day, once in the wee hours of the morning and then again just before supper.

I did small jobs: fetching things, opening and closing gates, feeding the calves, or
milking the single milk cow. When it was time to feed the large herds, I would sit in
the cab of the truck while my uncle attached a large trailer to the back of the truck.
This part of the work always required two men, one to pitch hay off the back while
another drove the truck across the fields.

I’ll never forget the summer when I was 11 years old. After lining up the truck and
trailer, my uncle asked me if I thought I could drive the big truck across the fields so
TWO men could be pitching hay to the cows from the trailer. Oh, I was eager to try! I
didn’t hesitate to jump into the driver’s seat or settle in and it was then that I realized
I was still so small I could not reach the pedals AND see out the front window at the
same time.

Not getting deflated, I wondered how was this going to work? How was I going to be
able to help my dad get the work done? I’d watched him do this hundreds of times, I
was sure that I could do it. As my dad came around to the driver’s side of the truck,
he said he had a solution.

The men needed a driver, I had a foot that could engage the gas pedal and move the
truck across the fields. Because I couldn’t see beyond the steering wheel, the men
on the back of the truck would call out if I was driving in the wrong direction and
needed to turn left or right. I looked across the fields, there was nothing in my way. I
thought this was a fine solution.

Before my dad buckled me in, he reminded me that there were two long irrigation
ditches running the length of the field, I only had to stay between those two ditches
and we wouldn’t be in any danger.

As I began to drive, I was thrilled to think I was being useful. My pride swelled as I
couldn’t wait to tell my sisters that I had learned to “drive” the big truck out on the
ranch. Feeling pretty proud of myself, I was surprised when I heard my dad call from
the back of the truck, “Amy! Turn right!”

I was a little unsure, I had hardly touched the steering wheel and had driven in a
straight line, I was sure that I hadn’t turned and that I was still headed in the right
direction right down the middle of that field.

But I turned, and we continued. After a few more minutes, I heard my dad call out
again, “Amy, turn left. Turn left!” Surprised again, I quickly realigned the wheel and
as far as I could tell looking out the side window, we were running parallel to the
ditch again. And yet, for the next two hours as I drove through the fields we
continued to zig zag back and forth between two parallel ditches while my father
called from the back of the truck whenever I needed a course correction.

I’ve thought a lot about this experience, I want to share 3 lessons that I learned from
that summer.

1- I had no doubt that my father, calling from the back of the truck, wanted me to
succeed. He needed to get the work done, but he also wanted to see me learn,
grow, and take on new responsibilities. The Lord is the same. As D. Todd
Christofferson taught, “God’s ultimate purpose is our progress.” We need to have
faith in the Lord and in His servants.

2- As a child, I didn’t have the good sense to hesitate. I felt only eagerness when
given the opportunity to serve. Alternatively, sometimes we might feel hesitant or
discouraged, thinking we are not able or qualified to do the Lord’s work, but take
courage, “whom the Lord calls, the Lord qualifies!” (emphasis added, quoted from
Thomas S. Monson)

Indeed, the Lord declared, “out of small things proceedeth that which is great…
Behold, the Lord requireth the heart and a willing mind; …” (D&C 64: 33-34)
I learned to be eager and to engage in the work.

3- Take correction and repent quickly.
An irrigation ditch is not easy to see when standing in the field, as a ditch usually lies
beneath ground level. They are best seen from a higher vantage point. As my father
and uncle stood in the back of the truck, they had a view I did not, they knew the
fields well and were aware of potential danger. They constantly called out to me to
turn back to the center of the field.

It is the same with our church leaders. Like my father calling from the back of the
truck, the Lord has provided prophets and apostles who stand as watchmen who are
allowed to see things from a more “heavenly perspective”. We sustain them as
prophets, seers and revelators.

In the Book of Mormon, Ammon taught Limhi: “A seer can know of things which are
past, and also of things which are to come, and by them shall all things be revealed,
or, rather, shall secret things be made manifest, and hidden things shall come to
light, and things which are not known shall be made known by them, and also things
shall be made known by them which otherwise could not be known.” (Mosiah 8:17)
These men of God, can see things we cannot see, “they have a responsibility to look
out and warn us of pitfalls, danger” and even irrigation ditches (so to speak)
“regardless of public opinion or trends in society.” (Ensign 2016)

We would be wise, to heed their counsel, act on their invitations, and repent
quickly when we are called to turn back towards Christ.

When the job was done, I sat there, both in awe and gratitude. I had listened
carefully to the warnings from my dad and had no reason to doubt his intentions. I do
not doubt the instructions I receive from the Lord or His servants either. I know that
they serve us as watchmen, diligently serving because of their love for the Lord.

Christ is our Savior and Redeemer, he reminds us that “whether by mine own voice
or by the voice of my servants, it is the same.” (D&C 1:38) I have a testimony that
President Russel M. Nelson is the Lord’s prophet. His watchful care is already
preparing us to withstand chaos and turmoil. His counsel and invitations, when
heeded, will keep us on the covenant path.

In the name of Jesus Christ, Amen

Not that 'Friday Night Special'.

Some people's journal entries are inspiring and prompt. I aspire to claim at least one of those qualities someday.

I'm making quiche for dinner and feeling so thankful for frozen pie crusts as I had two left in the freezer. (Dinner in half the time.)

I am realising I'm not the All-in-One-Steal-of-a-Deal that I thought I was...

Kicking this circuit breaker off I totally thought I'd kill it (planning routines, setting goals and scheduling workouts...).  Because by Friday nights my kids are not getting anything fabulous from Dr/Coach/Teach/Pastor/Weary Mom.

Anyone else feeling the same vibes?

I'm thankful for friends who normalize the situation. I know I'm not alone in the struggle to keep a peaceful home and loving environment. I really do love having everyone home with no friends and the opportunity to focus on less, and that they have so much time to just BE together. But then, in less than 2 weeks Moses has become my most destructive child ever, and I blame it on distance learning home school. 

Being the only child exempt from iPads, he has entertained himself with scissors, carefully crafting holes in our carpet and adding detail work to anything with upholstery. Dallin has scrubbed the paint off walls trying to remove the marker murals. (So thankful for Dallin.)

Maybe Moses assumes I'll be in need of some retail (or otherwise) therapy when everyone returns to school. :) 

Until then, I've got plenty of scissors, and happy to drop them in the mail for any needy friends. In return, I could use about 20 more rolls of scotch tape for all of Scout's art projects.